Imagine you’re a 34 year old, working in a corporate under a demanding boss who never seems to be happy with your work (or anybody else’s for that matter). So every day, you have to work harder and harder to please your boss. And there is no respite even back at home because you have a working spouse who is equally troubled at work. To add to this, you have a 4 year old child to attend to. As a good parent, you have to ensure them a happy childhood by taking him out on play dates, latest animated movies, give them piggy back rides - basically cater to their high energy levels without disappointing them. You also have aging parents to worry about, and ensure you’re there when they need you the most.
Didn’t just reading that cause your eyebrows to furrow up? Without realizing, most of us are hamsters on this very wheel. There’s no wonder that people as young as those in their thirties are now afflicted with problems like thyroid, blood pressure, slip disc, etc.
Often in life, you will encounter two types of individuals. The emotional ones, who take everything to their heart, and the rational ones, who process before performing. To say that a person fits only one side of a dichotomy is mere hearsay. Yet both of these types - that’s almost every human - crumble when facing a particular emotion - stress.
Stress always manifests itself through expectations. The drive to fulfill these expectations, or succumbing to failed ones, is what daunts us. Stress plays a detrimental role as the root of all negative emotions. Anger, results from the lack of control over situations. But to be angered, you’ve to be stressed to the point of uncontrollable emotions. Sorrow results from fatigue due to traumatic or continuous misfortune, yet sorrow stems from low resistance to stress. Hence, we can understand that stress plays a crucial factor in life, and is an emotion that isn’t classifiable as beneficial, or degrading. However, in this rapidly progressing world, stress is something that has started bubbling up inside people at an astonishing pace.
Small doses of stress is often useful, and helps in motivating individuals to complete their goals, or pursue their ambitions. However, prolonged exposure to stress often makes one volatile. In India, stress is often embedded in our day-to-day activities. Getting good grades is considered so pivotal to students in school and college that they often end up neglecting their health. We often eat into our sleep/ rest time, in order to complete work. We might face situations where we have to constantly put up a false front while socialising, or might have to lie to our dear ones in order to avoid unfavorable situations. This results in our being stuck in a negative feedback loop, where we keep feeding our stress, until we collapse.
Stress dramatically impacts one’s life. Studies state that:
Almost 85% of people under stress tend to have strained relations with family and friends.
70% of people under stress say they have become short-tempered.
Globally, 1 out of every 10 students suffer significant distress.
One of the biggest reasons for absenteeism from work is stress, as over 50% of lost workdays across the world result from it.
Stress also leads to deterioration in performance and socialization, as 69% of people suffering from stress related disorders are apprehensive that society would consider them to be volatile.
55% of people suffering from stress related disorders say they have very few close friends.
The typical onset of social anxiety disorder usually commences during one’s teen years. Thus, almost everyone, at some point of their lives, has gone through similar stress levels. It is advisable to seek out help from professionals, and try to nip the evil in the bud. Yet, at times, due to difficult social circumstances, we might have to force a smile or maintain a façade, making contact with consultants and psychiatrists cumbersome. Individuals are often scared to seek professional help, as they believe they will be mocked. It is best to open up about your stress, as there is a strong correlation between stress rate and suicidal tendencies.
It is difficult to track when seemingly benign stress transforms itself into anxiety or depression. People realise how dire the situation is only after anxiety has taken complete control over their life. The right therapy at the right time is therefore very important. At CalmIndia, we have launched an online course based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy that helps people learn to combat stress better.
Stress may be unknowingly taking over your life. So, help yourself before the time runs out! #BounceBack